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Abusive Father And No One Gives A Damn (Advice)


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My brother is 11 years old and we found out he has all these bruises and his back is completely swollen. 

No matter what we do it seems that CAS are determined to keep my brother under such conditions. We all reported it over 10 times. 

If my brother goes to my mom's my dad can call the cops and get him brought back. We all know my brother has even exposed it all that my 20 year old sister and my Dad are beating him up. We all seen the marks.

 

One time my brother told us that my Dad threw him down the stairs and walked on his back. The FACS actually accused my brother of lying even though he had the marks. My younger sister and I went over this together and can't find a solution no matter what we do it seems like there is no solution we even agreed if we get the evidence together we will call the cops on our own flesh and blood, even have her friends become eye witnesses. One of her friend's mothers is a nurse we have this plan but I don't even see a point cause my Dad is just that good of a liar.

 

Can someone please give me some ideas or advice for this problem thanks. 


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I hear alot about this on emo corner :sad:

And it makes me sick that someone could harm a child!

Okay if you have a camera every time he has injuries take a photo and write down the date, maybe use a cell phone to send to your email to set the date of the injury in stone, that way you can prove the injury was on that date.

also write down or remember any names of any people he and you show the marks to, or are witnesses.

I don't know if you have a budget for anything like a pen cam but something like a pen camera on him that his father wont notice is very good, you want to try and get his father yelling abusive words at him on camera or a video tape of the abuse thats strong evidence in a court.

Also if he carries a cell phone on him even some of the most basic cell phones have a voice recording option on it, if his father screams abusive words and threatens to hurt him when it happens thats evidence right there.


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I hear alot about this on emo corner :sad:

And it makes me sick that someone could harm a child!

Okay if you have a camera every time he has injuries take a photo and write down the date, maybe use a cell phone to send to your email to set the date of the injury in stone, that way you can prove the injury was on that date.

also write down or remember any names of any people he and you show the marks to, or are witnesses.

I don't know if you have a budget for anything like a pen cam but something like a pen camera on him that his father wont notice is very good, you want to try and get his father yelling abusive words at him on camera or a video tape of the abuse thats strong evidence in a court.

Also if he carries a cell phone on him even some of the most basic cell phones have a voice recording option on it, if his father screams abusive words and threatens to hurt him when it happens thats evidence right there.

 

Okay, that is good advice. My sister and I not the abusive one if we do this.

My one sister and my dad might go to jail, my brother will end up in foster care and we will become outcasts by my dad's side of the family.

I'm sad that it has to come to this. :'(


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If you or your sister have your own place and are old enough you can keep your brother rather than being put in foster care, but you have to show that you guys can manage yourselves. Like the other person said, it would be good to have proof of it going on. Set up a hidden camera somewhere, if you're there than discreetely record it with your phone (if you have one). Your dad might be a good liar, but a beating is a beating. Take pictures of your brother's bruises and don't edit them for anything, otherwise they might think you doctored them and they can be dismissed. So what if they go to jail? They deserve it. So what if you become outcasts from his side? They weren't truly your family if they take his side after what they put your brother through.


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I've been in foster care.
Moldy food
Limited visiting hours
They can get you in trouble for anything and you can say anything about it and you have to play housekeeper for as many hours as they wish
They short you on your state cash you get every year for clothes and things you need even though you only get like 50$ for the year
Only approved cell phones

That's how it was in the group home my brother and I were in. Idk man both are bad situations
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Yeah I've been trough that mess, I remember it really well ever since I came out to my parents as a bi-curious my father has been abusing me and beating me up. So I being a minor had no idea of what the heck to do so I went to my neighbors and showed them the bruises, they were all : Uhhh why did he do that to you? So I told them, and they brought me to the clinic first then the doc there called someone and this woman came up to me and asked me a bunch of questions. But still nothing happened and I still received beating from my father, I finally had the guts to tell my mother about my problems I told her I wasn't happy with how I am, so she brought me to therapists and doctors so after a year of torture from my father, he cant touch me anymore, I now live with my aunt, and I've been on hormones for six years then a sex reassignment op last year. One thing I always clung onto was to never ever lose hope, cos there will always be light at the end of the tunnel. ( I talk too much XD )

anyway if you guys wanna talk PM me.     


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