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How To Tell Your Sexuality
There is a large misconception about how to tell your sexuality. The main question you really need to ask yourself here, is "Would I preform acts of sexuality with a member of the same sex?"
If you answered yes:
Homosexual means you are attracted to the same sex, and the same sex only.
Bisexual means you are attracted to both male and female.
If you answered no:
Heterosexual means you are attracted to the opposite sex.
However, a lot of people class themselves as bicurious. Being bicurious isn't exactly Heterosexual or Bisexual. People who are bicurious want to experiment with members of the same gender. After that stage, some people find it just isn't for them, and others find it's exactly what they want. It's very much all about experiencing certain things in life, and clarifying whatever questions are in your mind. There is absolutely nothing wrong with eperimentation, think of it as a guide in life - I assure you, everybody has been confused of their sexuality at some point or another. It's completely normal. You don't NEED to know, it's okay to be open about your options.
If you're young, it's probably best not to jump ahead and try to figure this out just yet, I suggest waiting until you're ready to take the next step. If you're worried, don't be. It's natural to feel scared at this stage in life - but often the confusion can become too much for some people. It's better to wait until you know you're in the right place, rather than acting upon what you're feeling at the moment. You may find you'll regret it. The level of hormones in a teenagers body is the highest they will be throughout your life, 'wondering' whether you could be anything other than straight at this moment is a mere thought, this does not mean that you are. Don't go getting worked up about this until a little later on.
Overall, a person cannot tell you if you are Straight, Gay, Bisexual, Lesbian, or whatever. You must do this yourself.
And if friends do not accept you due to your sexuality. They're not really your friends.
I would also add that there is a difference between sexuality and gender. Transexuals believe they were born with the wrong genitals, and can be straight, gay or bi. Transexualism is not a sexuality, but more likely a physical disorder. I know it ends in "sexual", and that can be confusing, but it really is different.
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-Occasional Desire
Tips On Coming Out
How To Tell Your Sexuality
There is a large misconception about how to tell your sexuality. The main question you really need to ask yourself here, is "Would I preform acts of sexuality with a member of the same sex?"
If you answered yes:
Homosexual means you are attracted to the same sex, and the same sex only.
Bisexual means you are attracted to both male and female.
If you answered no:
Heterosexual means you are attracted to the opposite sex.
However, a lot of people class themselves as bicurious. Being bicurious isn't exactly Heterosexual or Bisexual. People who are bicurious want to experiment with members of the same gender. After that stage, some people find it just isn't for them, and others find it's exactly what they want. It's very much all about experiencing certain things in life, and clarifying whatever questions are in your mind. There is absolutely nothing wrong with eperimentation, think of it as a guide in life - I assure you, everybody has been confused of their sexuality at some point or another. It's completely normal. You don't NEED to know, it's okay to be open about your options.
If you're young, it's probably best not to jump ahead and try to figure this out just yet, I suggest waiting until you're ready to take the next step. If you're worried, don't be. It's natural to feel scared at this stage in life - but often the confusion can become too much for some people. It's better to wait until you know you're in the right place, rather than acting upon what you're feeling at the moment. You may find you'll regret it. The level of hormones in a teenagers body is the highest they will be throughout your life, 'wondering' whether you could be anything other than straight at this moment is a mere thought, this does not mean that you are. Don't go getting worked up about this until a little later on.
Overall, a person cannot tell you if you are Straight, Gay, Bisexual, Lesbian, or whatever. You must do this yourself.
And if friends do not accept you due to your sexuality. They're not really your friends.
I would also add that there is a difference between sexuality and gender. Transexuals believe they were born with the wrong genitals, and can be straight, gay or bi. Transexualism is not a sexuality, but more likely a physical disorder. I know it ends in "sexual", and that can be confusing, but it really is different.
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-Occasional Desire
Tips On Coming Out
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You should first accept it, and embrace it.
Do not try to deny it and try to change it, you are who you are. Embrace your characteristics, not try to destroy them.
Secondly, build up self confidence and be happy with yourself. Not vital, but it definetly helps I would imagine.
When you want to tell, tell people who you want to know, close friends and family. People over fret and tend to keep hiding it. You cannot control or change it. So live and love it. You must understand it isn't some kind of choice. You're born this way.
Don't over fret what others think. Everybody will be insulted and such. But do not pay heed to it. The only opinions that matter in the end are those of loved ones. Not people who merely want to put you down, and I doubt loved ones want to do that. There is no specific time or way to 'come out', it is whenever you feel ready. If pressure is making you feel uncomfortable, do not cave into it.
Just trying to say, love it and yourself.
Do not try to deny it and try to change it, you are who you are. Embrace your characteristics, not try to destroy them.
Secondly, build up self confidence and be happy with yourself. Not vital, but it definetly helps I would imagine.
When you want to tell, tell people who you want to know, close friends and family. People over fret and tend to keep hiding it. You cannot control or change it. So live and love it. You must understand it isn't some kind of choice. You're born this way.
Don't over fret what others think. Everybody will be insulted and such. But do not pay heed to it. The only opinions that matter in the end are those of loved ones. Not people who merely want to put you down, and I doubt loved ones want to do that. There is no specific time or way to 'come out', it is whenever you feel ready. If pressure is making you feel uncomfortable, do not cave into it.
Just trying to say, love it and yourself.
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Here are some links to other threads which may help you with coming out:
http://www.hrc.org/d...rceguide_co.pdf
http://www.emo-corne...p...st&p=676779
http://www.emo-corne...p...st&p=729070
http://www.emo-corne...p...st&p=716415
http://www.emo-corne...p...st&p=717490
http://www.emo-corne...showtopic=33143
http://www.ucl.ac.uk..._ucl#coming_out
http://www.hrc.org/d...rceguide_co.pdf
http://www.emo-corne...p...st&p=676779
http://www.emo-corne...p...st&p=729070
http://www.emo-corne...p...st&p=716415
http://www.emo-corne...p...st&p=717490
http://www.emo-corne...showtopic=33143
http://www.ucl.ac.uk..._ucl#coming_out