Well I was wondering, my boyfriend and I wanna try something less "Vanilla" now we've gotten more into the relationship we wanna kink it up a bit. Wanna try something more painful.
Mm I was wondering what would be safer: a whip, a belt or a riding crop?
and how hard would you start off
Also anal has been put on the table we both given mostly oral...does it hurt a lot at first, how can you make it more easier? Lot of lube yaa
What do you want to do with the pain? Is it going to just be spanking, or is it more for wherever you please? The best way to start off with the pain is to ease into the persons comfort zone. Ask them after a smack if they want it harder or softer, and be willing to be vocal about how you like it or if you want it toned down. Each person has different tolerances of pain, you just have to find it.
As far as the anal, start off with something small (such as a finger) and work your way up. I like anal play and have been doing it for quite awhile now. I'm not a professional, and even sometimes it hurts still when I go for bigger toys. Always use plenty of lube and once again, make sure you communicate to your partner on how it feels. Don't give up if it hurts a little or a lot the first time. I know that it seems rational to not try something again if it hurts, but anal is wonderful. To summarize it, there are just a few things to know.
1. Start small and work up
2. Use plenty of lube.
3. Take your time upon entry, don't force it.
4. Relax. Have a few orgasms before so that you will be less tense when he is ready to enter.
5. Go slow at first, speed it up as you are ready.
I hope this helps.
Also to the person who asked if they can break your fingers if they sneeze, it is possible. I had three fingers inside a girl one time, and while she was having an orgasm, she clenched her vagina. It hurt my fingers pretty bad. She did sneeze while I was fingering her one time and it did apply a lot of pressure to my fingers. I would say it is possible, but not likely unless she really wanted to just cause damage.