Making it seem like its my fault? How can one be so sure when one doesn't know the story. I didn't mean it that way. I know not all guys are dicks. But some surely are.
no no, I'm not saying you focus on whether or not it's your fault. I'm talking about looking at yourself and finding things that make you like yourself better and then hopefully help get you out of your funk.
it's important to look at WHY a relationship fails. But that sort of revelation usually doesn't come until later when you're already at a different place. But also it's just not productive to assign blame as blame is generally a very negative thing. What point is there in saying it was his fault or your fault? In my experience, it's never just ONE person whose to blame. Usually, both sides have to take some level of responsibility for it. (usually one more than the other, of course, but rarely is it entirely just one person's fault)
And if there is anything I've learned from my experiences with romantic relationships and professional relationships, blame NEVER helps anyone. It simply just means you'll permanently sour what little relationship you have left with that person.
I'm not saying that it was your fault that the breakup happened, or that it was his. I don't know the circumstances and so it would be presumptuous of me to say so.
What I'm saying is, stop focusing on what went wrong, and focus on what went right, and what went right with you. Focus on the good things about yourself, not on the bad.
Tell me, what do you think attracted him to you in the first place?