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Kelly And Beth's Guide To Sex.

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Vor, Akshay, good ideas. Thankyou for the input.

I don't think Kelly can come online as frequently, so when I have enough time I'll sort out the additional bits of info.
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Periods continued

Thanks to Jo for the suggestions.


Menopause


The Menopause is when a woman's reproductive fertility ceases, and her periods stop. Therefore she cannot reproduce. It occurs more or less in middle age, typically between 45 and 55. This can sometimes vary due to genetics. Menopause can also be affected by smoking.

Periods may also stop by other causes, such as malnutrition or chemotherapy. However, this isn't classed as menopause.


During the Menopause and the time leading up to it, certain symptoms may develop. These could include the following:

-Hot flushes and night sweats.
-Sleep disturbance.
-Vaginal symptoms [such as itching, burning or discomfort].
-Urinary symptoms [women experiencing menopause are more prone to cystitis and UTIs].
-Lack of libido [sexual drive].


These symptoms aren't always present. They normally go away after menopause is over.




PMS

Premenstrual stress or Premenstrual tension [PMT] are a collection of symptoms [emotional and physical] which may occur in relation to a woman's menstrual cycle. These symptoms are normally predictable, and arrive in the two weeks before menstruation. Generally they leave before or after menstrual flow. Not all women experience PMS.

Because men do not menstruate, they do not get PMS. However, the irritability/ mood swings PMS sometimes includes is sometimes referred to in media, as a metaphor.


The symptoms included in PMS can be the following:

-Bloating
-Breast tenderness or swelling
-Cramps
-Stress or anxiety
-Insomnia or sleeping problems
-Muscle and/ or joint pain
-Acne
-Fatigue
-Headaches
-Mood swings
-Irritability
-Lack of/ change in libido [sex drive]
-Hot flushes
-Worsening of existing skin/ respiritory/ eye conditions
-Chronic diahorrea.


Some factors can increase the risk of PMS. These include the following:

-High caffeine intake
-Stress
-Increasing age
-History of depression
-Usage of tobacco
-Genetics
-Allergies to things such as trees, nuts, grass and marker pens
-Poor diet


Cramps and pain from PMS can usually be eased by painkillers, heat packs, hot baths and rest. If PMS gets unbearable, hormonal intervention may be suggested by a doctor. A good diet can also ease PMS.





T.S.S

Toxic Shot Syndrome, abbreviated to T.S.S is a rare, potentially fatal illness. It's caused by a bacterial toxin. Different toxins can cause this syndrome. T.S.S can occur via the skin [burns, cuts, wounds, surgery etc.], the pharynx [which is the part of the throat behind the throat and nasal cavity] and the vagina [through prolonged tampon exposure].

It has been estimated that half of T.S.S cases are through prolonged tampon exposure. The majority of the population have antibodies against the syndrome, although it is not known why some don't. Scientific studies have suggested that the usage of some high-absorbency tampons increases the risk of T.S.S.

You can avoid the risk of T.S.S by changing your tampon regularly [at least every 4-6 hours]. Alternatively, you can use other sanitary methods [see Kelly's post on periods for more information] such as pads or sanitary cups, but these still have to be changed/ emptied regularly.

T.S.S can result in comas, organ failiure and death. It's important to try and prevent it.

Symptoms may include the following-

-High fever
-Low blood pressure
-General discomfort
-Confusion
-Rash

The treatment of this syndrome normally includes hospitalization. If you are female, wearing a tampon and experience these symptoms, you should remove it immediately.
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It's best if you just edit it into the original post hun. So people can see it, because a lot of people will read the guide, then not read the comments.

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QUOTE (♠No Quarter♠ @ Sep 6 2009, 12:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I skimmed through a bit. I think a bit about helping to determine your sexuality, how to come out about it and how to accept it would be useful for people. I'd write it up myself, but I've gotten some negative PMs from people because of my straight orientation, trying to help people with GLBT problems.

I think seeing heterosexuals trying to help out with glbt issues is great. It shows that we have so much support, it makes me feel better and not so alone in this world. Sometimes I just feel like no one understands me or is willing to support me [/god, I sound so emo]. :3

QUOTE (Beth. @ Sep 7 2009, 03:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Vor, Akshay, good ideas. Thankyou for the input.

I don't think Kelly can come online as frequently, so when I have enough time I'll sort out the additional bits of info.

Sorry about the bolded bit. Its totally out of my control, Bethy.
I would offer to write it up later or today, but I've gotloads of crap I have to get sorted out for school (because this is what happens when I leave paper work and a five hundred and fifty two page book to the last two days).
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Oh, I don't push the GLBT agenda, I just believe equal rights until you harm another or violate their rights.
And enjoy helping people with their problems.
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QUOTE (Mrs. Staton @ Sep 8 2009, 12:23 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It's best if you just edit it into the original post hun. So people can see it, because a lot of people will read the guide, then not read the comments.

A lesson I've learned in guide making


I'm adding links to individual posts into the original post, for quick links to specific topics. I think that way it'll make the guide easier to navigate in general.

QUOTE (.::Skrillex::. @ Sep 8 2009, 01:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Sorry about the bolded bit. Its totally out of my control, Bethy.
I would offer to write it up later or today, but I've gotloads of crap I have to get sorted out for school (because this is what happens when I leave paper work and a five hundred and fifty two page book to the last two days).


It's fine, Kelly. Don't sweat about it. :]

I'm sorting it out now.
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Your Sexuality - how to determine, accepting, and coming out.

Thanks to Forrest for this suggestion.

All credit goes to Forrest, Erin, and Alex for their content in this post.


In this guide, there are quite a few posts explaining sexuality terms. But how to really determine it?

Firstly, it's perfectly fine to be confused or unsure of your sexuality. The majority of people may have doubted their orientation at some point in their lives, and with hormones whizzing around your body in adolescence, this may be a factor [this isn't to say it is a 'phase' however- some know from an early age].

Most definitions will say it's who you are 'attracted' to. It's mainly referring to sexual attraction. What sexually turns you on, or who you would sleep with.

It isn't purely physical attraction. Homosexuals can enjoy straight porn without being heterosexual and vice versa, straight people can find people of the same sex attractive, gay people can find people of the opposite sex attractive.

We cannot tell you what your orientation is. It's something only you yourself know.

The main conception is if you would sleep with the same sex only you're gay, if you'd sleep with the opposite sex only you're straight, if you'd sleep with both you're bi, neither you're asexual and regardless of gender pansexual. However, gay people may sleep with the opposite sex and vice versa. It's not really fixed.



Coming to terms with being LGB

LGBT stands for Lesbian Gay Bisexual and Transsexual. Sometimes, being gay or bi can take some getting used to. You may not accept it at first, be ashamed or go into denial. The same may occur with your family and friends. Some people never accept their sexuality.

I'm quoting a post from Forrest [hope that's okay with you], which goes into more detail with accepting yourself.

QUOTE (♠No Quarter♠ @ Jun 27 2009, 05:05 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Firstly, I am no Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual or etc.
So I am not first handedly giving you advice.

But, I can imagine from what I observe and feel.

You should first accept it, and embrace it.
Do not try to deny it and try to change it, you are who you are. Embrace your characteristics, not try to destroy them.
Secondly, build up self confidence and be happy with yourself. Not vital, but it definitely helps I would imagine.
When you want to tell, tell people who you want to know, close friends and family. People over fret and tend to keep hiding it. You cannot control or change it. So live and love it. You must understand it isn't some kind of choice. You're born this way.

Don't over fret what others think. Everybody will be insulted and such. But do not pay heed to it. The only opinions that matter in the end are those of loved ones. Not people who merely want to put you down, and I doubt loved ones want to do that.

Just trying to say, love it and yourself.



Don't be ashamed of who you are. You are still the same person, and still a human being.







Coming out

Coming out is when an LGBT person becomes open about their orientation/ gender identity. This may include a few people [such as select family or friends], or almost all people. 'Outing' a person is exposing someone else's orientation, normally against their will.

Coming out may seem daunting. Don't feel pressured into doing this. Only come out when you yourself feel ready to do so, and with the people who you trust. Not all people will be accepting, so take care. There is no specific time when you have to come out, although when you feel ready to, it's a good idea to take the situation into account. Telling your family over a holiday meal or during an argument may not be the best idea.


I don't know if they'll be accepting or not.. help?


If you don't know the person/ people's opinions on gay/ bi people or the LGBT community, it may be an idea to bring recent or local LGBT issues into conversation and see how they react. Watch their reactions to LGBT media and press- perhaps you could mention a gay/ bi book, show or movie, and see how they react to that.

Religion could also be brought into question. If the person or people are strictly religious, it may clash with their values. You must accept this. It may not be a good idea to tell them, although it is your choice.



How do I come out?


There are no fixed ways to coming out.

One way of coming out is sitting down and talking to the person/ people. I've heard it's not a great idea to come out over the phone/ via text, but this is your decision. Some people prefer to get straight to the point 'Mom, I'm gay', 'Gran, I'm transgender' or 'Dad, I'm bisexual'. Some prefer to use phrases such as 'I don't really like -sex-', 'I have a girlfriend/ boyfriend' or 'I feel attracted to -sex-'. It probably isn't the best idea to turn up one day with your other half and say 'Hey mom. Oh, by the way, I'm gay. This is -person-', unless they're pretty accepting.

Some cannot express it audiably, and may prefer to come out via email or letter. It's an idea to take care about doing so- make sure you word it well, and don't leave it where someone you may not wish to read it could find it.

If your family or friends are not accepting, try not to feel too bad about it. They are entitled to their opinions and values, as are you. Ultimately it's your life.

If they are extremely unaccepting and resort to verbal attacks, physical attacks, ignorance or neglect, you need to tell someone trusted. If physical attacks become serious, inform the police. Helplines are available if you need them, and there are people there. You are not alone.


Quoting/ linking some posts and sites which you may find useful.

This one is particularly useful in my opinion.
http://www.hrc.org/d...rceguide_co.pdf

QUOTE (Erin the Exuberant @ Jun 24 2009, 12:13 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You're the one that knows your situation best, so you have to make the decision yourself.
Keep in mind;
You don't have to come out. Just because you realized it doesn't mean you jump right out.
You should wait till you're actually dating someone of the same sex before you come out.
If your friends don't like you for it, they aren't your friends.

You don't have to do anything.
If you're not comfortable yet, then just stay in the closet. No problem with that.

I'd just sit your parents down and talk to them about it. Explain stuff, you know.

QUOTE (AleXx. @ Jun 16 2009, 02:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Do you have any gay friends?
If you do, i'd suggest coming out to them.
Its more comfortable knowing that they are in the exact situation as you and that they wont judge you.
If not, tell a teacher at your school, see a counsellor. There are many options.
Dont announce it to everyone at your school, you could regret it.


http://www.emo-corne...showtopic=33143

http://www.ucl.ac.uk..._ucl#coming_out

http://www.wsmsh.org...-out/index.html
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I haven't heard that personally, but that's not to put the point down. Thanks for that, Jess. smile.gif
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actually yes u shoudl edit the main guide and not new posts its even hard for me.. lol
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I think that would clutter it up though, in particular with any new topics. Trying to keep this as organized as possible. The links in the original post are simple enough to use, I think. I'm open to suggestions however. :]
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Well, Guides are kinda meant to be cluttered, and to be honest most people don't want to go through many links, (Like people read guides anyway). Maybe it's just because I've always used Post I: Guide Post II: Change notes
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QUOTE (Mrs. Staton @ Sep 15 2009, 04:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Well, Guides are kinda meant to be cluttered, and to be honest most people don't want to go through many links, (Like people read guides anyway). Maybe it's just because I've always used Post I: Guide Post II: Change notes




ahhh! anyways its fine
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There isn't a lot about pregnancies on here ... typical
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hello guys

I just want to say hi

Please don't spam the forums. Advertising in your signature is ok only if you contribute to the forums properly in your posts.
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i was going through a review about cancer and they stated that cancer coul start if we " overuse " cells as they get agitated . so... does this mean masturbation and sex toys will lead to cancer ??
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That is exactly what that means. No more sex for anyone, ever.
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This post was not written by myself.

Contraception.

Most medical professionals will recommend at least two forms of contraception. Here's some of the main options out there:


Male Condom

One of the most common methods used. Around 85-98% effective when used correctly. Make sure you used a recognised brand, as these are the ones that are tested and work, example: Durex, Trojan, etc. In Europe there is a recognised Kitemark on the packet to show they have been tested and that they are safe to use. I'm sure the US has a similar system - perhaps someone can enlighten me here?

Advantages:

- Easy Accessible.
- Allows men to take responsibility for contraception.
- Can be carried easily, doesn't need to be taken continuously.
- Protects against STIs

Disadvantages:
- They can split
- They're not very cost-effective


Female Condom.

Basically the same as the male condom except it is put inside the woman. 95-98% effective when used correctly.

Advantages

- Pretty similar to those of the male condom

Disadvantages:

- it takes practice to insert them properly
- they can be pushed aside during rough sex.


The Pill

Probably one of the most well known types of contraception due to the many different brands and kinds. It's between 96 to 99% effective depending on what kind of pill you're taking, when used correctly.

The pill is taken by women not men. You start it on day 1 of your cycle (ie: when you get your period) and continue taking it until the packet runs out. You stop taking it for 7 days and during this time, you have your period. When the 7 days are up you go back to taking it every day until the next packet runs out, and so on.

It's recommended to take the pill at the same time every day, and I would strongly recommend putting a reminder on your phone/alarm clock/in your diary.

Advantages:

- Does not interrupt sex (you don't have to stop what you're doing to take it)
- It can protect against cancer of the womb and ovary.
- Can be taken to help skin (acne), as well as painful periods or heavy cramps.
- It is reasonably cheap.

Disadvantages:

- It's not really suitable for women with high blood pressure – this is something your doctor will tell you.
- If you throw up, or if you have diarrhea, it is usually immediately uneffective – see a doctor if this happens to you.
- There are some nasty side effects, but if you swap brands they can usually be reduced.
- Does not protect against STIs.


The Injection.

This is literally an injection the doctor gives you to protect you against pregnancy. It can protect you for up for 12 weeks.

Advantages:

- Does not interrupt sex.
- Can be useful for women who cannot take the pill, or don't want to.

Disadvantages:

- May cause irregular periods.
- Injection MUST be given by a doctor or medical professional.
- It can take time for fertility to return to normal – it can be hard to immediately try get pregnant if you had the injection.

- Does not potect against STIs.

The Coil.

It's a small device placed into a womans womb. Between 98 and 99% effective.

Advantages:

- Does not interrupt sex.
- Can be used for up to 8 years.

Disadvantages:

- Risk of pelvic infections.
- May cause irregular periods
- Must be put in and taken out by a doctor – don't go trying to take it out yourself!
- Does not protect against STIs.


The Implant.

This is inserted into your upper arm. It can be felt to touch, but not seen. 99% effective.

Advantages:

- Works for up to 3 years.
- Can reduce painful periods.

Disadvantages:

- May also cause irregular bleeding, no bleeding at all, or weight gain.
- It must be put in and removed by a doctor.
- Does not protect against STIs.

The Patch.

To be honest, this seems to be to be somewhat complicated. It's placed on your skin, each patch is worn for one week, and you wear a different one for 3 weeks, followed by one week without a patch. I suppose it's similar to the Pill except it's not a tablet. 99% effective if properly used.

Advantages:

- Does not interrupt sex.
- UNLIKE the pill, it is not affected by vomiting or diarrhea.
- Highlly reversible (you can just take it off, fertility is not really affected).

Disadvantages:

- Can be seen on the skin
- Medication can sometimes render it useless
- Costs a lot more than the pill
- You need a prescription to get it.
- Not suitable for women with high blood pressure (the doctor will advise you on this).
- Does not protect against STIs.


Vaginal Ring.

It is inserted by a woman into her vagina and worn for three weeks in a month. 99% effective if properly used.

Advantages:

- Convenient
- Easier to remember about than the pill
- Inserted by the woman herself (no need to go to doctor)

Disadvantages:

(mostly the same as the Patch)


Diaphragms.

It's inserted by a woman into her vagina to cover the cervix, ie: to stop sperm from reaching the egg. No babies! 92-99% effective if VERY carefully used. It is much less effective if you are not careful.

Advantages:

- it can be put in any time before sex, and can be re-used

Disadvantages:

- You must see a doctor to get the right size and type.
- You have to use spermicide (used to "kill" sperm – available in chemists) every time you have sex.
- Must be kept in for at least 6 hours after sex.
- Some women can get cystitis from this – a painful inflammation of your bladder.
- Does not protect against STIs.


Natural Methods.

This involves nothing the "fertile" and "infertile" times of the female cycle to prevent pregnancy. Most women ovulate and are most likely to get pregnant about halfway through their cycle. Thus, sex is avoided during this time.

HOWEVER, it is a VERY risky method as you can guess the time of your cycle to be different than it actually is, PLUS you can still get pregnant even if you're not ovulating (it's unlikely, but still possible).

Advantages:

- Inexpensive, no chemicals used, approved of by most religions (most noticeably the Catholic Church).

Disadvantages:

- Tricky to try and figure out a womans cycle. It can vary from month to month, and even when it is not, it is still hard to try predict when ovulation occurs.
- Will mean you cannot have sex at some times of the month
- Only really suitable for women with VERY regular periods.
- You must understand how a womans cycle works and that illness, stress and medication can also vary this.
- Does not protect against STIs.


Male and Female Sterilisation.

One of the most difficult methods. For men, this means a vasectomy. For women, a hysterectomy.

It is a surgical operation that provides permanent contraception. It CAN be reversible, but reversal can be difficult and unsuccessful. For most of the people on this site, it is probably too extreme a method to use, but still worth knowing about.

Advantages:

- Useful for families who have had enough kids, or who don't want children.

Disadvantages:

- Not effective immediately
- Males can experience swelling and discomfort
- For females, this requires a hospital stay and general anaethethic.
- Does not protect against STIs.


Emergency Contraception.

This is not recommended to be used as a regular method of protection.

It is more commonly known as the "morning after" pill, though it can be taken up to 72 hours after sex. What happens is, you get an immediate period which can sometimes be more painful than your usual one. However, it is still recommended to take this, either if a condom split or you forgot to use contraception. It is available from a doctor, and in some countries, a chemist.

- Does not protect against STIs.

Male Birth Control Pill (??????)

This is NOT yet available. It WAS being developped until funding was cut off - they polled a group of guys and most men showed no interest in taking it (rather disappointing, I think) There is already a thread created about this so I won't waste any of your time talking more about it – here's the link if you're interested: http://www.emo-corne...showtopic=30708 - Funding was cut for this research, Not sure if and when this will ever be available. Join topic listed above for more information on why.

my information:

Used from my own knowledge, and double checked against the following sites – feel free to check them out

http://www.thinkcontraception.ie

http://www.vhi.ie/hfiles/hf-060.jsp

http://www.irishheal...le.html?con=355

Thanks.
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Hey, Mah peeps! I Love the guide, It's real helpful! I wanted to add something for the boys i think was skipped a bit:
PMS!

PMS(Post Menstrual(sp?) Scycle(sp?))
Is when a girl is having random mood swings both due to hormones and/or because she is in pain 24/7.

Do not assume A girl is PMSing just because she is angry at you, and if you say so and she is, it might be bad for you're health!

Not all girls have the same symtoms(sp?), and thus no one is exactly alike.

When a girl is PMSing bad, remember that you are walking on thin ice.

Uhhh... yeah... thats about it...

Hope this helped and didn't piss off to many people Batting Eyelashes.gif
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I learnt more from this than I did my sex education classes
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Lesson 1:



Lesson 2:



THAT IS ALL.
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