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[Phoenix]

^What happens if you die? Who'll be hurt most? You, or the people who will spend reach day wondering why you did it, why they didn't stop you, why they didn't tell you to get help?
If you really care about your friends and your family, you'll stop. If that isn't a good enough reason: Do you want to end up hospitalised, like Lycanpirexgirl (See first post)? Do you want to end up depending on people?
In short, do you want to fuck up your life?

Edit: Sorry to sound harsh, but that is what will happen if you don't stop. There is advice on the first post on how to cope, or you could look at the post above yours, or any advice on this section about cutting, which will pretty much say the same thing.

[TerrierChad]

I cut myself really bad sometimes.I don't care if I go to far,i just want to see the blood and feel the pain. My cousin knows how bad it is and how depressed i am but she never says anything neither do my friends.

This is the same kind of selfish attitude that I simply despise. Tempest has hit the nail on the head. This isn't just about you, this is also about your friends and family. If you so much as nick an artery then you've fucked it and you'll have ruined all those who know you and care about you lives. Do you really want to do that? If not then go to your doctors a.s.a.p. and get the help you may need to kick the habit.

[blackneon]

okay so a lot of my friends want me to stop cutting. and i know its bad, but i jsut dont really want to stop. i love how it feels and calms me down. and i love seeing the blood. i think im kinda addicted. but im starting to wish i wanted to stop. im just a bit confused on my feeligns about this. i dont know how i make myself want to stop. any advice?

[finality]

okay so a lot of my friends want me to stop cutting. and i know its bad, but i jsut dont really want to stop. i love how it feels and calms me down. and i love seeing the blood. i think im kinda addicted. but im starting to wish i wanted to stop. im just a bit confused on my feeligns about this. i dont know how i make myself want to stop. any advice?

Read the first post in this thread.

[blackneon]

i did.... sorry for posting then.. i didnt find anything to help. just ignore me then....

[finality]

i did.... sorry for posting then.. i didnt find anything to help. just ignore me then....

There isn't really much I can say other than what's in that. A lot of it is down to self control and willpower, nobody can stop cutting for you.
Simply put, just stop. Just get rid of whatever you're cutting with and if you feel you need to cut, go out for a walk or run, or listen to loud music, anything to take your mind off it. Even crying can really help.

[blackneon]

i suppose that helps a bit. ill see what i can do. ahah. and sadly i dont really know how to cry anymore...
i can cry to physical pain. but not to emotioal i dont get whats up wiht that. but hopefully ill be able to stop cutting. thanks.

[TerrierChad]

The most important tool you need is will power. You have to be willing to fight because it will be a tough battle. Unless you are willing to put everything you have in to getting better then you won't manage it but if you are, the fight will be worth it.

[XnewtX]

i suppose that helps a bit. ill see what i can do. ahah. and sadly i dont really know how to cry anymore...
i can cry to physical pain. but not to emotioal i dont get whats up wiht that. but hopefully ill be able to stop cutting. thanks.

i know how it feels not being able to cry its frustrating and to other people you can come across 'cold' but your not and i agree with chad all of it is down too will power i used to cut but i got over it i still think about it but i won't do it, put what i found help was i promised a close mate and i didnt want to hurt him, also this person helped me to shes made alot of good advise videos and a website to
http://www.youtube.c...ranktheseawater
hope this helps oh and pm if you want anymore links i have loads

[blackneon]

thank you. again. :]

[XnewtX]

not a problem

[TerrierChad]

Hi

when I add new contact in my QIP, right after I got error message that contact was self removed. When I disconnect and connect QIP, contact is added in contact list. Is this QIP bug or ICQ server protocol problem?

thanks

Wrong section mate. I've set up the topic in the "Newbies, FAQ and Suggestions" section. Pay more attention to where things go please.

[LozzaEmoChic]

I feel like I'm addicted to cutting because it makes me feel better and helps blot out the bad things in my life, its got so bad that my best friend will pull me away from anything sharp before i'm tempted to use it, I know about the consequences of it, but I feel like I can't stop :/

[TerrierChad]

I feel like I'm addicted to cutting because it makes me feel better and helps blot out the bad things in my life, its got so bad that my best friend will pull me away from anything sharp before i'm tempted to use it, I know about the consequences of it, but I feel like I can't stop :/

Well, first of all, if you don't think you can stop on your own then you really need to seek help. Have you seen your doctor about this?

[Bimp]

I self harmed once, when I was about eight. I scratched the skin on my wrist in three vertical lines using my nails until it started bleeding, so that I could tell people I had been attacked by a tiger.

[brandonbmth]

my reason is "To block out thoughts you just don't want to think, or mental or emotional pain, or to deal with stress". to be honest, this is the first time i have ever spilled this since the first time 2 years ago. my parents ask me why i wear long sleeves during the summer, i say i'm "cold" but its to cover the scar running from my shoulder to just before my wrist. this is really the first time i have made any mention of it outside of my mind and the poem in my signiture.

Weeeeeel,u need to find reasons to stop,i used to b HUGE on cuttting,hell id have bloodstains on my clothes(still do),bt anways find motivation.For instance i wanted more in life and as soon as i started doing that my gf came along,and n ow im cut free and ive been in a healthy happy relationship for a year,just find somthingthat makes you happy and stick to it,as long as it aint cuttin:)

[Winnie The Shit]

I did too,
But one night when my mom arrived home from lectures she saw my arm and woke me up.
it was at mid-night
i don't think she slept
to be honest, i would cut myself again.
you bleed out the pain
the emotional pain is a lot more painful than the physical.
but at least you can feel a little numb.
i wouldn't ever advise anyone to do it.
but to me its like my drugging addiction i cant let go of.
and to those people who humiliate you, can't reach the grim reapers shroud as slow and painful as you can.

Edited by Forzare!, 16 August 2010 - 10:55 AM.
merging double post, editing text tags: tags go AROUND the text

[Phoenix]

^Ok, listen up:
1. No need for double post, poetry or fonts.

2. You sounded like you don't give a thing about what your mum feels and basically you said "It's not ok for anyone else to do it, but it is if I do it."

If you DO care about your mum, then you'll try and stop, if only for her. She loves you, and if you nicked an artery, you'd take her down with you, mentally. How on earth is that fair?
Now for the cutting: Does it really solve anything? Or does it leave you with the problem afterwards and a new one which is hiding it and making sure it's not infected?
Is it a better way of coping with things than other solutions such as therapy (or willpower)? Or is it just as bad, if not worse, than illegal drugs and cigarettes?
And, if you died, would that be a good thing? Or would it leave your friend and family grieving and wondering for the rest of their lives why you did it, was it their fault, who's fault was it?

[xxxMeryxxx]

Hmm. Well I cut here and then. Only when I get into fights with my mom. I understand im very disobedient and rude sometimes but I have a feeling she goes overboard. She throws me to the floor, kicks me, has hit me with electrical cords and those really think leather belts. One memory I will never forget is once for picking up the phone because I really wanted to talk to my grandma when mom and her had a feud mom got really mad at me. Hit me badly and left many bruises on my arms, I decided to use sweaters and long sleeves so people wouldnt ask what had happened....and I was in 2nd grade. My mom is a really good person but when she looses it she looses it. I have a friend who used to be a cutter, thou she repeated to me many times to not follow her steps one day while really angry and depressed I started cutting. It hurt so much but I realized it had made me forget my problems. As problems with my mother continued I kept doing it. Lately it doesnt hurt as much, I feel I cut more each time. ABout 4 months ago I stoppec cutting for about 3 months because my friends kept begging me not to, so I didnt but eventualy got back to it. These pasts days there has been minimum fights but nothing important but I still cut, more for fun than anything =/ I really dont know what to do. I know I cant tell my mom because im too scared of what'd she do. Really its not a big problem, I dont cut deep all the way to my bones, neither do I cut the veins but I have many scars and I wouldnt like to get caught one day. How to stop...=/

[TerrierChad]

Hmm. Well I cut here and then. Only when I get into fights with my mom. I understand im very disobedient and rude sometimes but I have a feeling she goes overboard. She throws me to the floor, kicks me, has hit me with electrical cords and those really think leather belts. One memory I will never forget is once for picking up the phone because I really wanted to talk to my grandma when mom and her had a feud mom got really mad at me. Hit me badly and left many bruises on my arms, I decided to use sweaters and long sleeves so people wouldnt ask what had happened....and I was in 2nd grade. My mom is a really good person but when she looses it she looses it. I have a friend who used to be a cutter, thou she repeated to me many times to not follow her steps one day while really angry and depressed I started cutting. It hurt so much but I realized it had made me forget my problems. As problems with my mother continued I kept doing it. Lately it doesnt hurt as much, I feel I cut more each time. ABout 4 months ago I stoppec cutting for about 3 months because my friends kept begging me not to, so I didnt but eventualy got back to it. These pasts days there has been minimum fights but nothing important but I still cut, more for fun than anything =/ I really dont know what to do. I know I cant tell my mom because im too scared of what'd she do. Really its not a big problem, I dont cut deep all the way to my bones, neither do I cut the veins but I have many scars and I wouldnt like to get caught one day. How to stop...=/

First off, it's going to be hard enough to stop anyway never mind with issues still happening. If what you said is true then your mother is abusing you. Sitting there hoping she doesn't isn't going to stop it, you need to contact the authorities. I know you love her but the way things are then you haven't got a chance of stopping.