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My Ex Is My Best Friend, What Do I Do?
Posted 13 November 2011 - 11:09 AM
To make matters worse, a girl from my past is in love with me, but she can't stand my ex. Part of me wants to keep my ex as my bff becuz without her, i feel dead. Another part of me wants to give the other girl a chance and severe all my ties with my ex. I don't think i can bring myself to it though. Each day the drama and stress gets worse to where i don't know what the hell im going to do.
Can someone tell me what I should do. I feel lost, and I've been trying to look for a way out of the situation, but i'm always drawn back in.
Posted 13 November 2011 - 11:16 AM
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Posted 13 November 2011 - 11:43 AM
Posted 13 November 2011 - 12:15 PM
Being "best friends" is never going to work out. Your girlfriend left because she was attracted to the other guy more, but now you want to keep her around as your emotional tampon. And for some reason, she let you.
@ OP: Don't do this to yourself. Just figure out what you want and go with that.
Posted 13 November 2011 - 12:45 PM
Posted 13 November 2011 - 02:56 PM
Posted 13 November 2011 - 03:27 PM
Maybe try to transition from "friends" to "friendly acquaintances"?
Maybe your right reflection. I might try that. but i just might c how things play out during this week
Posted 21 November 2011 - 10:40 AM
As for the new girl, is she actually asking you to completely ditch your ex? That type of thing would get an automatic no from me. I don't like people telling me what to do. I think you should take some time and space before jumping into anything new.
Posted 22 November 2011 - 03:58 PM
Posted 22 November 2011 - 08:07 PM
My advice would be to give her space and yourself space. She is only newly single so is probably trying to plug the gap that makes. If you and her want to make with the togethering after time has passed do it.
Posted 22 November 2011 - 09:03 PM
Posted 22 November 2011 - 09:13 PM
(food for thought) in this situation you have to tell both of them that you aren't telling either of them to go away because one doesn't like the other. if you are her true best friend you wont shoo her off for a girl, if the other girl really cared she wouldn't want you to stop talking to your ex. however in your case she is single now and is talking of getting back together. don't do it unless you have gotten past the hurt as that will only complicate the relationship. once you are past those feelings you could try if you want but i wouldn't advise it because she may just do it again.
i thinnk your best bet is to just move on and date a different girl and keep her in the friend zone. (sorry for the cliche)
Posted 30 November 2011 - 03:54 PM
Do i seem stupid?
Posted 01 December 2011 - 01:59 AM
This girl is not the type of girlfriend you should want. Yes it might be all fine and dandy now but wait till someone else catches her interest you'll be dropped like a sack of spuds
So yes you are an idiot.
Posted 01 December 2011 - 07:25 AM
a yes you do ^-^ a yes you do ^-^
Posted 04 December 2011 - 08:48 AM
Posted 04 December 2011 - 09:03 AM
Posted 04 December 2011 - 09:06 AM
You rightly point out that you're a twat everyone on this thread has told you to stay away but cos you "appreciate" her you decide to let her hurt you again well done sir
Hope she doesn't hurt you too badly
Posted 04 December 2011 - 09:18 AM
Even though she and i are back together, we aren't as bonded as before. Thats because i wont let us become real close since im skeptic of the relationship. Im wedging space between us so incase something comes up, the aftermath wont be as severe as before.
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