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Posted 18 March 2012 - 04:01 PM
Posted 18 March 2012 - 04:29 PM
I've gone through the same thing with bullying, just getting angrier and angrier and wishing I could fight each and everyone of those arseholes, teach them a lesson and make them pay for the shit they did. But I talked to friends about it, talked to my family, talked to a councellor even. It helps a little, getting your feelings out there, you can also take self defence classes or kick boxing classes, something that gets you active and out there. Kind of redirecting your anger towards something else and focusing on that, instead of directing it at past problems.
Or if that isn't helping try something more calming like meditation, yoga, painting or pottery... Something that relaxes you and gets your mind as far away from thinking about your bullies as possible. When I was younger used to say 'one day you're going to be a janitor or garbage guy' think little things like that, not much of a revenge I know, but younger me was easy to placate.
Yeah I have to admit, even now I get a little pissed up and upset about the past, but in the end just think of them as something you can brush off *shrugs* All I can say.
Hopefully it helps.
Posted 18 March 2012 - 06:58 PM
you can also take self defence classes or kick boxing classes, something that gets you active and out there. Kind of redirecting your anger towards something else and focusing on that, instead of directing it at past problems.
I agree with the whole venting in a more healthy way advice. Taking something negative (like pent up anger and hatred) and using a positive way of releasing the rage like kick boxing or exercising gives off satisfaction, whereas taking anger out on someone you hate can have consequences you regret, maugre the fact you temporarily feel good that you've had your revenge.
I've not had a lot of experience bullying, so I can't directly relate to that, but I have had experience with hating someone so much that I've lashed out on them. Trust me, it's not satisfying as you'd think it was, hurting someone like that and the consequences were pretty dire too. At least (some of) these people have apologised, they acknowledge they did you wrong and are sorry for doing so. You'll probably have that anger inside you a while, so again, I think you should take NewlyGeeking's advice on a healthier output.
Posted 18 March 2012 - 07:18 PM
Posted 20 March 2012 - 03:59 AM
I agree with the above posters that you need to find a way to distract yourself from this anger and separate yourself from it, you seem to be really involved with the resentment you feel and you're stewing on it more and more. Find some distractions like suggested above and find someone to talk to about this, I suggest this a lot but it's really helpful to see a counsellor and talk things through and they'd be in a better position to axtually help you.
Posted 21 March 2012 - 01:19 PM
1: The kids who were bullying you were immature at the time, since some have apologized maybe its best to accept that kids judge each other, it happens
2: It seems like the issue with your parents could be related to something entirely different than you. A lot of the time a parent will take out their anger on their children when something else in their life is interfering or frustrating them.
3: Whats in the past should remain in the past. You may feel hatred towards these people but revenge solves nothing and in the end your more likely to feel just as guilty or low as they do.
Sometimes the best option is to find a way to let go. This can be done in a few ways, if its a serious issue you can seek professional help. If this is simply just a case where you have trouble dealing with the individuals that caused you pain then find a means to separate yourselves from them (you can block people on facebook, you can remove friends, and since they dont bully you anymore it is possible to avoid them). The final and in my opinion most desirable option is to simply accept that the past happened, many of these people apologized to you, and that trying to get revenge will only lead to more problems, in other words, move on, shit happens. I know its a tough process but its a lesson that everyone needs to learn. Just because someone did something terrible to you doesnt necessarily mean you should do the same to them. The only way to feel happy about a situation is to be a good person. By doing acts of kindness people will recognize you more as being someone they can respect. True respect comes from the acknowledgment of kindness or achievement. Be that kind person, forgive and forget.
Posted 22 March 2012 - 09:05 AM
cause your diffrent while they are followers who lick each others ass so just dont worry graduate and move on .
Posted 22 March 2012 - 01:05 PM
Posted 22 March 2012 - 05:57 PM
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