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[Godhand]

My mom seems to have me datinga girl who is 6 years younger than me, I'm 25 and she's 18 she gives me this lecture about how its against the rules of the place i go during the day and she doesn't know what the rules are...........a little advice please?

[Insane Pie]

I don't really understand this.
Is your mom making you date a girl six years younger than you?

[Let_Love_Bleed_Red]

Yes, this makes no sense. How is she making you? When you're twenty-five

[Nereus]

Wait, what?

I don't get it.

First off, what is this 'place' you have to go to during the day? What are its rules? And why would she be against this when she doesn't know the rules of the place?

And you're 25. Shouldn't matter who you date and how old.

[Forzare!]

I think you meant to put 'hate' instead of have at the beginning, in which case, you're an adult. If she has no real argument against you dating this girl you don't particularly have t do as she tells you, as long as you respect her opinion and listen to her points.

That is, if you aren't a troll. Which is looking unlikely.

[Godhand]

Yes, this makes no sense. How is she making you? When you're twenty-five

and I meant to say has a problem with me dating her

[Lightning.]

Can you explain what the problem is?

[Rellik San]

If you're 25 and she's 18 then isn't that 7 years?

Secondly, 5 year rule brah.

Thirdly I'd argue on the side of your Mum; hear me out.

I too am 25 and increasingly find those of ages 18-20 alien, their tastes, attitudes, out looks and other such factors that all contribute to build a strong relationship are vastly different to those of mine, even when I was their age, this lessens in effect as you get older, i.e. a 42 year old dating a 35 year old, the two are likely to have more in common then a 25 and an 18 year old thanks to life experiences.

HOWEVER: if you're determined to date this girl, you need to show your Mum, that she is as mature, intelligent and capable as someone your own age, your Mum is just looking out for you and not just from heart ache as quite often girls that young have very over protective parents and siblings of their own whom may see you as taking advantage of their naive daughter/sister, some of whom may get a little..... overtly aggressive.

[SilverNinjaRebel]

What if you like some one older than you?i have this problem with a few different people.i fantasize about me and them but if i get the person,i dont want them anymore.To be honest,i have a few serius crushes on 3 older guys,2 of them are teachers.i feel abnormal,what do i do???

[Steve]

What if you like some one older than you?i have this problem with a few different people.i fantasize about me and them but if i get the person,i dont want them anymore.To be honest,i have a few serius crushes on 3 older guys,2 of them are teachers.i feel abnormal,what do i do???

You create your own thread and don't hi-jack others', that's the first step.

[SilverNinjaRebel]

You create your own thread and don't hi-jack others', that's the first step.

ooops,sorry

[QWERTYASDFGH]

eh... she's 18.. she's legal. You're not doing anything wrong. You like her..stay with her. In this lifetime you have to do whatever makes you happy. I'm not saying disrespect your mom..but you're a grown ass man. You should make your own decisions, if someone doesn't agree..fuck them. You can't live your life trying to make everyone else happy. If this girl makes you happy then that's the only thing that matters.

[Rellik San]

eh... she's 18.. she's legal. You're not doing anything wrong. You like her..stay with her. In this lifetime you have to do whatever makes you happy. I'm not saying disrespect your mom..but you're a grown ass man. You should make your own decisions, if someone doesn't agree..fuck them. You can't live your life trying to make everyone else happy. If this girl makes you happy then that's the only thing that matters.

Just one thing there though: if he still lives at home then it's a case of Mothers house Mothers rules and he should respect that.

[QWERTYASDFGH]

Just one thing there though: if he still lives at home then it's a case of Mothers house Mothers rules and he should respect that.

I understand that, but being in your parents house doesn't give them the right to say who you can and cannot date. I am 20 years old... I live at home with my moms.. yes i'm ashamed i wanna move out so badly. I love my mom to death, but i be damned if my mother says i can't date the guy i want to date. Especially if i'm a grown ass woman. Just because he live with his mom..So what that mean? That don't mean shit. She don't run his life..she has a life of her own to live. Now if he was 15 i could understand that, but he's fucking 25.. that's a damn shame.

[Insane Pie]

The mother is not saying that he CAN'T. OP said that his mother has a problem with it.

You live with your parents, their rules and you should respect that, but that is a whole other topic.

[QWERTYASDFGH]

The mother is not saying that he CAN'T. OP said that his mother has a problem with it.

You live with your parents, their rules and you should respect that, but that is a whole other topic.

That shouldn't even be a rule.. but w.e i suppose lol..Thank god my mother isn't that way. There would be some problems. But I stick to what i said, If the girl makes you happy stay with her. Not many people on this earth find true love. Don't let her go over what someone else thinks. Talk to your mom about it and explain to her how you feel. If she is your mom, she will respect your decision and love you no matter what. Mothers are suppose to love unconditionally.

[Rellik San]

I understand that, but being in your parents house doesn't give them the right to say who you can and cannot date. I am 20 years old... I live at home with my moms.. yes i'm ashamed i wanna move out so badly. I love my mom to death, but i be damned if my mother says i can't date the guy i want to date. Especially if i'm a grown ass woman. Just because he live with his mom..So what that mean? That don't mean shit. She don't run his life..she has a life of her own to live. Now if he was 15 i could understand that, but he's fucking 25.. that's a damn shame.

So you're saying because he's an adult... he should be allowed to bring people into a house he lives in, even though he may not contribute to the bills in any meaningful way?

I'm sorry but that's bullshit

[Kevin Johnson]

I don't see a problem here at all.

[QWERTYASDFGH]

So you're saying because he's an adult... he should be allowed to bring people into a house he lives in, even though he may not contribute to the bills in any meaningful way?

I'm sorry but that's bullshit

whoa whoa.. how do you know if he pays bills or not? Do you live with him? Do you know him in rl? That's besides the point. Point is...when you're in love you should be able to fall in love with who ever you want to..as long as it's not breaking the law. Maybe his mom is strict yes..but i don't believe he should be afraid or feel threatened to bring someone he truly loves into his moms house..If she doesn't want the girl in her house..that's fine he can date her and take her places outside. No parent should stand in the way of their child's happiness...unless it is harming them.

[Lightning.]

I agree with Rellik, it's his mothers house. If he wants to bring his gf home he should have his own place he's 25. If his mother doesn't want him bringing her back to her house he should respect that.
And she's 18 she can't want the same things as a girl his age would. She won't be as serious as he is about their relationship (I'm assuming this because she is a teenager)
His mother probably knows this and is trying to protect him