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In Love With A Friend......


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I've been friends with this girl all year, and i have feelings for her, but i don't if i should try or not with her though. She doesn't know i have feelings for her but she's my friend and she is always there for me. Summer is coming up soon though and i don't know if i should ask her out right now because i don't know if we could see each other this summer if we're both gonna be busy. But she is a really nice girl and i figure it's worth a shot what do you say should i try now or should i wait until we have more time on our hands?

I'm just worried cause if she says no than that might hurt our friendship...any ideas??

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I don't get how you know you can be in love with someone who's only ever been a friend... and even then only for a year but uh yes it risks your friendship to some extent, but if she's always been there for you and you're close friends then I don't see why not? Unless she already has someone ofc. On the one hand, yes it might be a better relationship if you start knowing you're both going to have time but... who knows? You may have time after all, and you also risk the chance of someone else sweeping her off her feet over summer. If I liked someone that much then I know I wouldn't risk that.

You can't really avoid the friendship risk though, it's always there. You can dig around for signs or hints all you like - there will always be that risk and imo it's one you decide is worth taking or isn't. If she's as nice as you seem to think then I'd say she's worth it.

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Try to find out if she returns the feelings, if not, just forget it and move on. Don't destroy a friendship over little attraction.

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Go for it, if it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out. The friendship may or may not get hurt; you'll just have to find that out.
You also just may be "in love" with your friend because she is always there.

If you really do like her that much thought, don't let her go or you may get upset with yourself later down the road.

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Try to find out if she returns the feelings, if not, just forget it and move on. Don't destroy a friendship over little attraction.


I agree with this...you don't want to ruin something good over just a little attraction that may be just because she's always there as also said above...

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I asked her if we could hang out this summer and she said yes.

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Well then I'd hang out for the summer become closer friends and see how it goes from there...

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this is a promblem with alot of people, just talk to her and establish that even if everything goes pair shaped that you can still be friends and if you too are really good friends than you will stay like that,

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this is a promblem with alot of people, just talk to her and establish that even if everything goes pair shaped that you can still be friends and if you too are really good friends than you will stay like that,

Read the post dates, anything older than about 3-4 weeks is pretty much too late to give advice.




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