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Celibacy
#1
Posted 06 July 2012 - 02:21 PM
I was pushed to this seminal decision by a few things. . . Firstly; I'm terribly shy in real life (away from the glare of a computer screen), it is almost criminal and a hideous trait to behold and it makes meeting girls a flesh flayingly difficult thing to (ahem) do, let alone trick those unfortunate females into my listless little bed. Secondly; I've never had sex for love. Never. I have only ever indulged in dalliances of the flesh in order to quell my carnal urges, and I always manage to do so with an almost impressive detatchment to the girl in question, therefore, in quite a profound sense, I feel as if I am a virgin. Of emotional entanglement if nothing else. And thirdly (and perhaps least importantly) I idiotically believed that by refusing to fuck, I would be SO aloof that this would make me interesting and somewhat enigmatic. (So far, it has not. I'm still boring). . .
So far, though, it is going ok. Surpressing my desire is helping me focus on the aspects of people I meet with more depth. It's easier to find out more interesting things abut people once you permeate the facade, so to speak. Though I feel as if I am a caged animal obstreperously bawling and thrashing to explode from my cage. So I may just have to become promiscuous again for anybody who's self esteem is crippled enough to want me. . .
My questions, I suppose, are:
What is everybody's thoughts on celibacy? Have you had any experience of it yourself, or do you know someone who is? If you are celibate - why have you chosen to be celibate? Do you think it's weird or, maybe, even stupid to deny yourself of the most base and primitive needs?
I hope this provokes some kind of discussion because I think it could be quite interesting, but, then again, I'm celibate - what do I know about interesting?
#2
Posted 06 July 2012 - 02:26 PM
#3
Posted 06 July 2012 - 02:29 PM
#4
Posted 06 July 2012 - 04:36 PM
Dude fuck yeah, a Trigun quote?I'm a warrior of peace, chasing the elusive mayfly of love. Until then, I am remaining celibate. That is, until I change my mind.
#5
Posted 06 July 2012 - 11:04 PM
Good for you. ^w^ It is better to try to see people for who they are than for 'other things'.
#6
Posted 07 July 2012 - 01:52 AM
Have you had any experience of it yourself, or do you know someone who is? I am celibate....
If you are celibate - why have you chosen to be celibate? I chose not to have sex unless I had real feelings for someone... And as a "consequence" I am also a virgin. Also the fact that I find it extremly difficult to talk to people out of shyness and low self-confidence.
Do you think it's weird or, maybe, even stupid to deny yourself of the most base and primitive needs? Nah, it's not weird. Sides, you can always masturbate.
#7
Posted 07 July 2012 - 02:10 AM
#8
Posted 07 July 2012 - 04:32 AM
#9
Posted 07 July 2012 - 04:36 AM
I think people are confusing 'being celibate' with 'not getting any'.
True story.
I haven't gotten laid in like a month, doesn't mean I'm celibate.
#10
Posted 07 July 2012 - 03:25 PM
I have had sex with random people after a night out too often and I have been in relationships and cared about my partners. Like Jessticles said there have been times where I didn't feel like/didn't get laid for various reasons (it had never been over three or four months though) but I do enjoy having sex whether it is just for the sake of having sex or because I am in a relationship or dating someone.
#11
Posted 07 July 2012 - 05:34 PM
No, I wouldn't ever consider myself celibate, though there may be long periods of time where I don't have sex, it's been well over a year before. But that's more of a choice, and I wouldn't consider myself to be celibate purely on the basis that if a guy came along and it felt right with him, I'd sleep with him. I enjoy sex far too much to want to abstain, especially if I was seeing someone, christ, I could not imagine being celibate then. It'd be easier when you're single because then it's more just not getting laid.
This.
#12
Posted 26 August 2012 - 07:20 AM
#13
Posted 15 September 2012 - 03:07 AM
I respect a lot people who choose this kind of path and I think it shows how much they respect themselves and their bodies.
Have you had any experience of it yourself, or do you know someone who is?
No, I've never done such thing myself. I don't believe in one night stands and just giving it to anyone. Having sex with someone is part of a profound act of love, that in my opinion, should not be wasted with just anyone hanging in the crowd. I respect both parties. It's their life and their body.
If you are celibate - why have you chosen to be celibate?
I'm not celibate, but I don't have sex with just anyone (durr).
Do you think it's weird or, maybe, even stupid to deny yourself of the most base and primitive needs?
Nah. It might not meet with your basic instinct, but hey, who are we to say it's out of the ordinary?
#14
Posted 15 September 2012 - 09:27 PM
Do it if you want to, or don't do it if you don't want to.
Have you had any experience of it yourself, or do you know someone who is?
I've never deliberately not gotten laid. As I would put it, I didn't have sex by choice. Her choice.
If you are celibate - why have you chosen to be celibate?
N/A
Do you think it's weird or, maybe, even stupid to deny yourself of the most base and primitive needs?
Nah. Do what you do.
#15
Posted 21 September 2012 - 02:27 PM
Love and peace.Dude fuck yeah, a Trigun quote?
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