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Your One-Side Love Exceptions

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I dunno if it counts, but I was in a relationship for about 3.5 years with a girl and when it started I was a little bit afraid of letting myself like her too much so to speak so I kept myself from getting too close. Well, a few years and break ups later, we finally ended it for real with me kicking her out of our apartment. About 4 days after that happened, I realized what I had and regretted it. I've been trying to get her back for a year and a half now, and she won't have any of it. She says she wants to be friends, but she has a new boyfriend now and I can't stand talking to her and hearing about that. I just get too jealous. And I try to tell myself that there's plenty of other girls out there, but I've been single pretty much the entire time since her and I broke up save for literally about 1 month. I guess it's always been one sided, at first she was way into me and it wasn't returned, and now it's the opposite. I'm still having trouble getting over her. But, life goes on.
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Hmmmm. Had a year-long crush on the best-friend of my ex that I never acted on for that reason. Been the unrequited crush of someone who irritates/d me with their very presence (but has sadly clung on to my social circle through one person that's actually really cool and just happens to be the only person who likes her, and now one of my best mates is sticking his dick in her crazy).

Right now, I still like a girl I met at uni last year whom I had a tiny window to date, missed it, and she got a boyfriend, and I also have a slight crush on Ashin, much to her soon-to-come disgust, and Jess's delight. Wheeee.

I don't tend to develop romantic feelings a lot. Not ones that are stable, meaningful, and last past a month or so at least.
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I didn't exactly try to hide it, and it's only fresh anyway. A lot of what you thought was a crush was actually just harmless flirting, as I am prone to do with nearly every girl I know/have conversation with.
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Well this is awkward.
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Wheeee.


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The song Tattoo by Jordin Sparks the lyrics

"No matter what you say about love,
I keep coming back for more,
Keep my hand in the fire sooner or later I'll get what I'm asking for" Those lyrics seem to sing to me.

I feel like that. I've had numerous partners males and females and through that I've learned excessively from both good and bad times. Despite being rejected on occasion or rejecting others I believe life is meant to be explored, life isn't fun unless there are mistakes made, rejections to add on and heart breaks to learn from. I've always felt closer and closer to finding someone true I always believed I found love in this one love I have.

I've always made the first move, always put my heart fully in it. Even if I know from experience, I know there is a chance things will fall through, things don't work out but I think that is just being human you can't be scared of getting hurt because this world teaches you that getting hurt is the best way to learn something. Now I found a guy who not only has mutual feelings for me, loves me fully and respects my wishes and dreams but also someone who I consider not only a lover, partner and/or my boyfriend to boot but as my best friend I love so much about him he makes my heart swell and sometimes I'm scared things won't work out but at the same time I'm prepared for what may or may not happen and I'd be crazy not to let my love flow out and if I get crushed in the end then I just build myself up again and never be so paralyzed by fears that I let my life pass me by. I sometimes tend to be very analytical and sometimes I look at the lovers I had and look at what I did or did not like and look for those qualities else where. However I am happy. I've met all my darling's family, I've gotten to know more and more and more of him and even the faults he has I can withstand and even adore because its apart of who he is. I believe it is important to not look for perfection in a relationship I believe it is important to be able to find someone with faults you do not mind and to work together not just you try and fix him/her but to accept the faults and to work on them together as a couple both yours and his/hers.

I am by no means an expert on relationships but this is what I've learned. Now then for the fun stuff!!

I dated a male before and we had been going out since I was 17 and he was 24 we went out a lot mostly it was sexual and he tended to not be the most talkative person and a bit dumb, sure he'd shower me with affection and write love poems too me and talks of marriage. However things ended badly! Very badly. After I found out he had a couple sexual partners on the side I decided it was time to let go of that however we where both really drawn to each other and until he stole from me and blamed his friend I was willing to forgive him it ended badly as in cops at the door and him being arrested for being abusive and following me home, ya...wasn't the best guy out there unfortunately!

Another time I was living with this guy mainly because I had no where to go and we where dating. Well that ended badly as well he ended up trying to commit suicide because he was an extremely depressed person and he ended up trying to gas himself. I called his father, he's still alive however after awhile the relationship was dead we where no longer sleeping together in the same room, we would do our own thing and eventually I got sick of i and moved on.

And I could go on and on but this would be rather long and I can't exactly pull out my black book.
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Met online playing a game. Made it out of the friendzone after 2 years. Dated for almost 4 years. Planned on getting together over Christmas and figuring out moving together for summer. Excitement level 100% when everything came together. Knife to the chest when she just calls everything off one day. Everybody lived happily never after.

The End.
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Wow I'm so slow. I just realised the title of this thread is "Your One-Sided Love Exceptions", I just read it as "Expectations" this whole time.

Met online playing a game. Made it out of the friendzone after 2 years. Dated for almost 4 years. Planned on getting together over Christmas and figuring out moving together for summer. Excitement level 100% when everything came together. Knife to the chest when she just calls everything off one day. Everybody lived happily never after.

The End.

Was this an online exclusive relationship? (IE You never actually saw each other in person)
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Was this an online exclusive relationship? (IE You never actually saw each other in person)


Managed to get together at least once a year. Usually around the holidays - Summer Break/Christmas normally - for as long as possible. Typically about 2-4 weeks
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Managed to get together at least once a year. Usually around the holidays - Summer Break/Christmas normally - for as long as possible. Typically about 2-4 weeks

Doesn't sound healthy to me, I couldn't cope with that tbh. I had a long distance thing once, it was about 150 miles distance between us and we were only young so the 50 train tickets were a lot of money. We saw each other once every 2 months for about 4-5 days each and that was too hard, can't imagine not seeing someone for an entire year.
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It wasn't the easiest thing, for sure. Skype video chat, facebook, and incessant pictures/texting helped a ton. For me it wasn't too bad, since I've been a military brat from birth, I'm used to long distance relationships, friends or otherwise. Some people just can't handle it though - even for me it was bad since I rely more on physical presence than emotional; I need to be shown that you care, not told. Plenty of people have told me they care, only to act otherwise. o~o

Seeing each other every 5/6 months was about the limit though. You could notice changes at around month 5: we'd both start being more and more depressed more often, talk less, fight more, etc. Then We'd get together, everything would be fine and dandy, and we'd be good for another few months. But damn, it sucked hardcore... :c
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Had that problem once upon a few times. Now days it's get a dozen numbers and I'm sure I'll get a few dates here and there. When you get used to rejection, everything seems easier.


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I fell in love with a girl, she become obsessive, 5 years of bullshit, happily finished now.


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